Life Hack! How To Get Over The Mountain Of A Task That You Don't Want To Start...

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What was it like for you to get out of bed this morning?


How about making breakfast?


How about getting dressed?


How about starting your first task at work?

We START things all the time: conversations, projects, movements, etc. Starting never really stops...


But even though it is constant and universal, it does not mean that we enjoy starting things.

For instance, starting that first task at work is often really difficult until you have your first cup of coffee.

There is always a mental hump that we must ascend in order to get into flow and feel successful. A cognitive obstacle made up of our motivation (or lack of) and self-talk about whatever it is we have to start.

If you don't like your job, your motivation will be low and your self-talk will be poor, making the hump a whole lot bigger to climb.

If you were on a vacation to Hawaii instead, your motivation to go for a walk or something will be much higher and your self-talk with kinder because you are more relaxed.

Our ability to start new things is proportional to our relationship with the context of that thing being started.

In other words, you hate your cubicle? It is going to be hard to get anything started.

If we do not start what needs to be started, we are not productive. If we are not as productive, our performance slips and we do not make as much money as we could…

The problem is that we lump ourselves in to the group of coworkers around us in the same setting and believe that we must operate the same way that it seems they do...

This is how we lose sight of what makes us unique and the fact that each of us has a unique way of getting started.


For example, I work from home and I do not have any trouble getting started in the morning with work. I get stuck starting SPECIFIC TASKS that either I am not excited about or require a steep learning curve (or both) because I know the process will take longer than I want it to. In those cases, my motivation is low and my self-talk is all about how unexciting the task is going to be.

Serious procrastination has set in so many times...

I now practice an awareness technique of "measuring the mountain" and then figuring out the teeny tiny first step I can make to get some momentum moving on the task. Slowly but surely, it has been working.

But that is my unique experience. Others put on their jet pack and blast up that mountain no matter the size or indifference as soon as the task is presented. Some need another cup of coffee before they tackle it. Some have to walk around the office and say hello to everyone like in a college library before the muster the courage to sit down and start.

I can teach you the Mountain-Measuring awareness technique, but first I want you to reflect on your own process:

  1. How do you react when you have to start something?

  2. What things are easier and harder to get started in your life? Be specific.

  3. Why are those things easier and harder? Do they follow the motivation + self-talk formula I presented?

  4. What must you do personally to get over the hump of starting the difficult things? What has worked in the past?

  5. If nothing has worked in the past, what have you done to procrastinate, avoid, or pass the task off?

I repeat: everyone starts things differently. A future post will illustrate how resourceful we are, but the point is that we get in our heads when we face a challenging task.

It is all just mental.

Step One: Answer those five questions thoughtfully and honestly to identify your unique process of dealing with new tasks.

Step Two: Click the button below to design and practice your own version of the Mountain-Measuring awareness technique for FREE:

Just imagine how productive you could be if you didn’t get stuck starting new things…

Afraid Of Change? Try Growth Instead....

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How well do you handle change?

Better yet, how much change can you tolerate? Is there an amount that you even enjoy?

Change is one of those concepts in life that people rarely think much about but which weighs so heavily on them. It becomes a much larger thing than it really is because change is often connoted as something that we HAVE TO deal with.

A universal constant to which we have no choice but to succumb. And even though it is true that change is universal and it occurs ever millisecond of every day all over the world, people still become so stressed by it!


The universe - including us - is literally built from change and it stresses us out?


This is because while human beings are nice and entitled up top on the food chain, we are also so sensitive.

Change is universal so it is out of our control. Things that we cannot control make us nervous. When we get nervous, we get scared. When that fear is not assuaged, it grows into a looming stress that we do not know what to do with.


We feel alone and helpless and all the more scared of what change may happen.


The Problem

A real life example of this is the mental health / self-development industry. The whole industry is predicated on the prospect of change. You go to therapy to change your behavior. You read a self-help book to change your diet.

It is pumped into us, especially in America, that we must change to be better, to live our best lives. But that is just it: change is a mostly EXTERNAL force.

When we consider change, it feels like an external pressure that is commanding us to change.

In the ensuing sadness and fear, one does not know how or what will be different once the externally-enforced change has occurred.

This is why so many people are terrified of introspection: they have often been told to work on themselves by family or significant others, but they themselves do not know what personal change they actually seek.

It does not feel safe to them.

They do not know how far the rabbit hole goes and if they will be able to get back out.



The Solution

In reality, what are you changing? In the overall scheme of things, just a little piece of who you are. You remain the same person, just with a slight alteration.

A friend of mine owned an ultra successful gym overseas but had to deal with a substenant who stopped paying rent. While working 80 hour weeks to run the gym, he suddenly had to deal with small claims court, managing the communication with the subtenant, and coming up with the late money pronto.

He reports that he told himself at the time "Okay I have to change in order to deal with this and figure this out". Once he figured it out and ameliorated the issue, he himself had not changed.

He had simply evolved.

He had learned new skills of time management, people management, and legal proceedings. These are now tools he has on his tool belt.

Like Mario growing to the next level of size, he is strengthened and enhanced, improved in a random area of his professional life, but he himself has not changed.

He is not a different person.

The experience did not change his personality, but it augmented his intelligence.

See the difference?

The New Practice

Instead of being afraid of change when faced with a challenge, ask instead how and what you might be able to grow by facing the challenge.

The result is much more peace and calm and maybe even some inspiration to take on the challenge.

Practice this distinction for yourself:

  1. Source of the pressure to change: Who or what is demanding change from you? Is it just you to yourself? Friends, family, society, social media?

  2. Source of the need to grow: What challenge(s) are you currently facing that requires personal strategy, skills, and knowledge that you may not have?

  3. Source of the desire to evolve: What in your life or about you personally do you want to learn? What part of you do you want to evolve and enhance?

Take ownership over the change you want to see in your life.


Write down your answers and tell your friends and loved ones to make it real or click the button below to tell me your answers and make a strategy to fulfill them FOR FREE:

PS check out this short video in which I discuss the distinction between Growth vs. Change:

A 4 Step Strategy To Use The Chaos Of Life To Make You Happy

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Life is hard.

I'm done with sugarcoating things: Life is just plain ole challenging.

Buddhist monks might rebut that with "but it doesn't have to be hard". I know it does not HAVE to be hard because it can be spiritually and energetically easier, but that does not eliminate the fact that it still presents challenges all day every day that we must face in order to continue surviving.

Even Buddhist monks have to maintain the physical effort of meditating all the time.

Life has been challenging for me recently because there is a handful of things happening that directly affect me but over which I have no control and in which I do not play an active role.

On a particularly hard day a few weeks ago, I felt defeated about how difficult life is. I asked "Why does it HAVE to be so difficult?" As in, is it NECESSARY that life is so tumultuous?

The very next day, though, after I had gotten some sleep, I reminded myself that the entire universe is made up of chaos. That is how everything came to be the way it is now. All the particles and molecules exploding everywhere and bashing into each other with no rhyme or reason ultimately formed the planet and the oceans and the species and ecosystems.

So if this state of difficulty is the state of the universe, why does it suck so much?

In the personal development / psych / holistic / coaching / self-help / wellness industries, stress, anxiety, and overwhelm are the most common issues that people suffer and all subsequent interventions or programs aim to ameliorate that suffering.

My program does too, so I am not criticizing my own industry.

Everybody I work with, though, hits points during their suffering and in their recovery where they sigh deeply and say "Man, this is tough stuff".

And that is okay. That is HUMILITY toward the fact that you are just another teeny tiny piece of this gigantic infinite-piece puzzle…

Buddhist philosophy states that the condition of living this human life is itself suffering, which makes sense if the universe is made of chaos.

As a result, all the wellness industries I listed offer something to COMBAT the chaos like the chaos is an enemy that must be perpetually fought.

For those of you who do not know me, I am much more on the side of teamwork so here is an idea: let's team up with the chaos for a change…

Chaos is in and around everything, so why don't we embrace it and cherry-pick the type of chaos that we want in our lives?

Doing so will not only empower us to own our life journeys but it will also allow us to design the kind of chaos that is interesting, enjoyable, and fulfilling to bring on our journeys.

It is as simple as answering these 4 questions:

  1. Define "chaos" for yourself. What are things in your life that you would classify as chaotic or make up your chaos? Keep it general like relationships, job, overall career, daily routines, etc.

  2. What are your limits? In other words, how much chaos in these areas can you TOLERATE before you experience your version of a stress response, panic attack, or overwhelm?

  3. What amount of chaos do you enjoy? What level of chaos in these areas of your life exhilarates or energizes you?

  4. What level of chaos would you have to maintain in order to feel fulfilled and directed in your life?

When you answer these questions, think of specific examples and real experiences from your life. We all have experienced times when the chaos of our life is too much and we get overloaded, just as we have also experienced times when the chaos is energizing and you find yourself buzzing on that frequency of activity.

This is a new way to decrease your stress and design a life you enjoy.

If you are having trouble answering the questions or you are worried that you are doing it incorrectly, click the button below to do it with me for FREE:

I Did Not Share Any Content Last Week. Here Is What Happened To My Business...

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I did not write, film, or post anything last week, yet my business survived. Nothing happened.

I have learned so many times in my entrepreneurial career the importance of consistent content marketing in order to continue reminding people you exist and to continue providing valuable information along the way so that they know that you yourself are valuable.

I know that I have value. I know that I know things. I even know that all of my content is valuable as well at least to someone somewhere.

The reason I did not post last week is not because I didn't have anything valuable to share, but because I simply was not enjoying the way I was sharing. To be specific, I was not feeling the joy of creating it on a weekly basis and it felt more like a chore than anything when the time came in the week to share something new. 

Let me be clear: it was not the content of what I was to create that bogged me down, but the method through which it was to be shared.

This is an important distinction for three reasons, all of which apply to your life too. 


1. Enjoyment

As I alluded to, I did not look forward to the prospect of taking all the required time to simply post and share my new content. The problem with this is that part of my purpose in life and one of the purposes of my work is to make life easier for those I coach:  to decrease stress and increase enjoyment as a baseline. It is hypocritical of me to teach others how to do this while I do not discipline the same habits. 

2. Authenticity

The reason not enjoying the process of sharing content is a problem is because it did not feel authentic to my personality. Something did not align. Of course I could keep practicing different sharing methods in hopes that it would eventually feel more fluid with who I am, but then we enter into the age-old debate on whether or not it is better to improve our weaknesses or amplify our strengths. 

3. Rule Setting

I realized that certain ways I was doing things with my business I had learned from many “business development” sources over the last five years I’ve been in business, and I am proud of the fact that I have at least researched and fully attempted the majority of those things I learned are “correct” or “necessary”. I am at the point in my business, however, that what works for me personally is not always what these experts have told me. 

I realized recently that trying a new sharing method, for instance, made me think that that had to be the one thing I do and focus the most on when, in reality, I did not enjoy what it demanded and, more importantly, there are actually no rules. 

I don’t have to do anything any particular kind of way and I can be just as successful, if not more so, if I make sure that my brand continues to align with how I am and the way that I personally want to change people’s lives. 

The experts I learned from are not wrong, but their lessons may not be appropriate for my personality or for this particular time in my career. 

After all, I coach people on how to set their own pace, prioritize their efforts, and how to make sure their work in life remains aligned with their personalities and purpose. 

We are all working on it together. 

So let this be a reminder for you, as it is for me while I design the badass future of my content sharing, that it is okay to go at your own pace, it is okay to press the brakes and readjust, and it is most definitely okay to prioritize your integrity by staying true to who you are and what you care about giving to the world. 

I had a great time writing and sharing this post. Let’s enjoy setting our own authentic rules together from now on. 

Are you in?

Nervousness | How to understand your nerves and how to deal with nervousness...

Remember when we were in middle school and had to present a project in front of the class?

Remember how your stomach turned over and you simultaneously felt like throwing up and peeing your pants?

The slow burning sensation in your stomach is the NERVOUSNESS.

We most often feel nervous when there is something that we are required to do, we accept that we have to do, but which we are not accustomed to or comfortable with doing.

The classic interpretation of nervousness that we are taught is that we feel nervous about things that we care a lot about - like getting a good grade on your school project.

I like to take it a step further, though, to argue that it also marks the accomplishment of some kind of task, which elevates you to whatever next step that completion of the first task preceded. It's like a "okay, I made it" moment where you not only acknowledge the achievement but also you will be invited to begin working on the next level of it.

So in short, nervousness actually marks a moment of celebration!

But it still does not feel awesome, I know.

Just like anxiety, though it is a positive occurrence, nervousness is not fun to feel and leads people to react in the same two directions as we discussed last week with anxiety (refer back to last week's video).

What do you think? Is nervousness positive for you?

Let’s talk about it! Click the button below to schedule a free convo with me about what makes you nervous and how we can relieve them:

ANXIETY | What it really is and how to relieve it...

When was the last time you felt anxious?

It might have been just minutes ago for a lot of us.

Last week I talked about how Stress is a sensation of pressure combined with the bodily stress response that we often label as a state of anxiety.

Even though feeling anxious is intense, it is actually a healthy warning sign that something in your daily routine has been threatened and that some kind of change has occurred to which you must respond and adapt in some way.

There are two ways to respond to anxiety. I'll let you guess which one most people choose:

1. The Flight technique: for short term relief, they divert and do something to repress or ignore the anxiety trigger, or do something quickly to relieve the feeling but which will not be helpful in the long term.

2. The Fight technique: leaning into the anxiety and facing the trigger such that that trigger is eliminated in the future and one's anxiety will be lower about that thing, creating longer term healthy reactivity.

Are you ready to understand your anxiety better and design more effective ways to relieve it? Click here:




Stress, Anxiety, and Nervousness | Their Real Definitions and How To Handle Them... PART ONE

The words STRESSED, ANXIOUS, and NERVOUS are used interchangeably in modern vernacular without much insight into what they actually mean or when you actually feel which...

We are going to clear up the confusion.

Today is part 1 of a 3-part mini series to distinguish between the three uncomfortable experiences in order to help you become more aware of what you are really feeling.

The ability to differentiate between the three experiences will empower you to seek more targeted and appropriate support for that specific discomfort. Who wouldn't want to make stress relief easier?

In today's episode, we explore the real definition of Stress, and how the experience of stress is actually the combination of some kind of pressure or strain and the physiological response we typically associate with anxiety.

The inclusion of the pressure stimulus makes stress feel so much larger and heavier. The physical experience is different than anxiety as a result, and thus the way to relieve that experience will be different.

How do you know that you are feeling stressed?


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How To Change Your Life | The Difference Between Making A Change and Growing As A Person...

I meet a lot of people who know that they want to change something about their lives but they either don't know what it is or how to do it.

They get hung up on this word "change" because it can be small things - like switching up what you have for lunch - or big things - like changing your career or moving across the country. Either way, change can still be elusive and ambiguous, which is often why people do not do anything about it.

Those people ask for help when it becomes a real crisis of some kind or starts to unavoidably disrupt their daily lives, but they still don't know what change they need to make or how to make it.

That's where the idea of growth comes in.

We all want to grow. Human beings have to feel like we are making some form of progress in order to feel like we are evolving and that we will continue to survive.

While change lives in the mind on the intellectual level, growth lives in the heart on the emotional.

The real question is: In what part of you or your life do you want to grow, improve, or develop?

In what area of your life do you feel held back, trapped, or tied down in some way?

I want to know what your growth goals are! Tell me by clicking this link and scheduling a free conversation with me:

Is Your Ego A Good Thing? How to balance your ego and your true self for a fulfilling life

Raise your hand if you know people with a big ego...

Those people who you can't stand to be around because they are so self-absorbed. Those are people who spend way too much relying on their ego. That's why we call it an ego boost...it can get inflated.

The truth is that we all need at least a little bit of ego because it is the part of our minds that keep us aware of our relationships to daily life, our interactions therein, and our role as a human being amongst human beings on the planet. The ego is our connection to the outside world.

But too much of it is a bad thing, as we know from our arrogant coworkers and family members.

This week I explore how we can balance the use of our ego and our authentic true selves in order to create a sustainably fulfilling life.

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Special vs. Unique | How to stand out in a world of "Special" people...

We are not special. Sorry to burst everyone’s bubble.

We are unique, but we are not special.

It is cool and special that we exist in the universe, but we have a crushing desire for more specialness these days in order to feel like we as individuals are somehow more special in the universe.

We aren’t, though.

That’s just our deep desire to be good enough and worthy to earn some kind of “special” acknowledgement.

Each of us, however, is unique.

The problem is that NOBODY KNOW WHAT MAKES THEM UNIQUE.

I suggest a simple mindset shift: instead of focusing on your surface-level strengths and skills that you want people to see and which make you feel SPECIAL (which, let’s be real, a lot of other people possess), consider what is specific about the way you behave and talk and do things that allows you to be good at those things.

What specific characteristics about you make you particularly skilled in day to day tasks?

If you can answer this question and dig a little deeper than the surface where a lot of others steal your spotlight, you will be able to label a skillset that only you possess…

Not only that, it is a unique skill that can be applied to every area of your life as opposed to a skill that is only useful in one setting like the office or the gym.

Let's do it together!

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The Power of External Expression | How to design what you want to share with the world...

The third and final section of the Narrative Triad is External Expression. Quite simply, External Expression is anything that is communicated to the world outside of you - most often verbally. This could be as small as a casual conversation with a friend and as large as speaking to an audience of thousands of people.

This is the final phase because it relies on how you show up in the world (visual story) and your daily self-talk (internal narrative). The state of those two determines the way you actively express yourself to the world.

Because all three are so tightly related to each other, the proper alignment of all three is crucial if you want to live a fulfilling life.

Sadly, we can all relate to a negative alignment: when you don't feel good about how you look or enthusiastic about where you are or what you are doing that you begin to be hard on yourself, criticize your ability to have a good day, which leads you talk with less energy, avoid social interactions, and lose rewarding opportunities.

Luckily, positive alignment is possible: when you have strong self-awareness and self-acceptance and enjoy what you do, you will speak with more compassion and playfulness to yourself, which will give you much more energy and relief in social situations when you must express yourself.

The triad cycles continually all day every day, over minutes and hours, all the time. Hence why this is a practice. A lifestyle. But one that is healthy and rewarding.

Question for you: what do you think is the condition of your triad? Even though all three aspects are inextricably linked, on which one do you feel like you most often get hung up?

If you can identify that, you will be able to zoom in on it and target what needs to be addressed in order to smooth out the cycle and initiate a more positive version.

Are you ready to begin?

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The Gift And Curse Of Self Talk: How to rewrite your internal narrative and change your life...

Deep inside our own minds we are always talking to ourselves. Telling ourselves how we are doing, how we look, how we compare to others, and how we feel. Sadly that conversation is super negative and disheartening. We never feel like we are good enough and we continually tell ourselves that.

The internal narrative that gets reinforced affects EVERYTHING: our interactions, relationships, jobs, ambitions, and confidence every day of our lives.

We develop beliefs about ourselves based on the false expectations I discussed last week, and those beliefs inspire the internal narrative that only perpetuates the beliefs and leads us to behave in ways that reinforce the self-talk even further.

And around and around it goes.

But there is a way out.

Today's video talks about the first step you can take right now to own your self-talk and rewrite your internal narrative....and why it is important for your health...

If you are ready to start rewriting your own self-talk and live a happier life FOR FREE, click below and claim your breakthrough:

Psychological Freedom | The real definition of freedom and how to achieve yours TODAY...

FREEDOM is way overused in the mental health and coaching industries. It is often sold as the end all - be all of therapy or personal growth. In reality, though, it is only the beginning...

Personal freedom is the result of recognizing the false expectations we have believed all of our lives and taking ownership of the unnecessary pressure and stress we created for ourselves as a result of pursuing those expectations.

Once you understand that the expectations are made up, all pressure in your life is released. You don't have to do things a certain way. You have the opportunity to do whatever you want.

In this way, Freedom is not the end-goal. It is just the first step because achieving it offers you the opportunity to embrace it and subsequently do something with it. The opportunity to finally live life on your own terms

Are you ready to eliminate your own brutal expectations and achieve personal freedom?

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The Importance Of Accepting Yourself Before You Can Impact The World

It is common to prioritize focusing on others before yourself. The positive version of it is in acts of service, while the negative is when we believe what people say about us or worry about what people think about us.

Though the former is positive, neither actually draws any attention to oneself, the most important person.

In my third conversation with Collin Morris, creator of the ZION 2.0 podcast, we discuss why it is important to focus on yourself first before you can effectively serve others or the world beyond yourself as well as concepts of human development in modern society.

To learn more about Collin and listen to his awesome podcast, visit https://www.zionpod.me/

To hear my interview on Collin's podcast, click here: http://bit.ly/links-content

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The One Mindset You Need To Handle Uncertainty | feat. Collin Morris, Part Two

How do you handle uncertainty?

Are you like so many others in the world who freak out, shy away, and simply cannot deal with uncertainty?

Fear of the unknown is such a well known fear for a reason. People cannot handle not knowing what might happen in the future. Unfortunately for those people, uncertainty is an unavoidable part of life. In fact, humans have a deep-rooted need for uncertainty because it brings them variety and new learning opportunities that help them grow.

So what if you could just embrace uncertainty, welcome it in your life as something you know won't go away? How could you do that?

All that and more in today's video, the second of a series of conversations with Collin Morris, creator of the super cool podcast and brand entitled ZION 2.0 in which he converses with guests of various backgrounds and expertises about the subjects of human development, psychology, and preparing for a successful future.

Collin embraced uncertainty in a big way when he decided to go full time with his brand. Along with so many others in the world, I can relate to this dramatic leap into the unknown.

To learn more about Collin and listen to his awesome podcast, visit https://www.zionpod.me/

To hear my interview on Collin's podcast, click here: http://bit.ly/links-content

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How To Be A Respected Expert While Continuing To Learn And Grow | with Collin Morris, Part One

Are you an expert?

Do you know any experts?

What might you be an expert in?

If you are an expert, how can you continue learning and stay an expert?

All that and more in today's video, the first of a series of conversations with Collin Morris, creator of the super cool podcast and brand entitled ZION 2.0 in which he converses with guests of various backgrounds - and expertises - about the subjects of human development, psychology, and preparing for a successful future.

Collin is the perfect example of an expert who never stops learning. I love every conversation I have with him, and I am excited for you all to learn from him as well.

To learn more about Collin and his podcast, visit https://www.zionpod.me/

To hear my interview on Collin's podcast, click here: http://bit.ly/links-content

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Also, if you are ready to talk about ways to use experts, learning, and conversation to free you from whatever obstacles you are facing in your life, click on this link and schedule your free session: http://bit.ly/links-content

How To Show Your Authentic Self: Visual Story

SPOILER ALERT: I talk about me in this video...and my beard. But mainly I talk about how your body language, facial expressions, and physical appearance (i.e. clothing) says a whole lot about you and how an interaction is going to go...even BEFORE you start talking to anyone.

It is called your Visual Story, and it is the first part of a concept called the Narrative Triad made of three components that, when aligned, allow you to be the most authentic and directed version of yourself.

What do you think of this topic?

What does your "visual story" say about you on a daily basis?

Share in the comments!

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Does Your Job Title Define Who You Are? Tips to stop relying on this identity...

How many people do you know settle for a job because they like the clarity about them that a job title provides? Job titles only say a fraction of who you are but so many of us hide behind them like a security cloak so that we can tell people what we are with ease.

The problem is that we then attach ourselves to that identity and rely so heavily on the label to define who we are and what we are all about that we simply blend in with everyone else.

As with everything, the underlying issue is fear. We are afraid of NOT BEING DEFINED. We crave definition so that we feel like we are something in this world or that we might be fulfilling society's definition of success.

It turns out you are so much more than your job title. If you want people to really know how powerful you are, tell them more about why you do the work you do instead of the title of that work.

Do you agree? Share your comments!

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[VIDEO] The Two Kinds Of Home | In What Condition Is Your Internal Home?

Home is where is the heart is" is a common saying that you'll see on wall decor, but it has a deep double meaning.

Home can mean the physical geographical place in which you live or where you grew up, but a second kind of home is internal.  It is the consistent space of personal awareness and "personality" on which we can all fall back but also a place with which we all try to stay closely connected.

Whichever home is most important to you, it should always offer a sense of comfort and repose.

Homework questions:

  1. Imagine your internal home as a physical space. In what current condition is your emotional home?

  2. What comes to mind when someone asks "where is home?" How do you answer them? What thoughts immediately arise?

Share your answers in the comments!

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[VIDEO] Why Hope Is Harmful And Faith Is Fantastic

Hope is not a bad thing. It motivates people and it means people have something for which they are striving. But hope, unfortunately means that we give away our responsibility to make that thing happen. We hope that it will be granted to us in some way.

This is where faith comes in.

I do not mean faith in the religious sense; rather, I mean faith as a kind of hope that also includes self-trust and a level of self-confidence that the goal you pursue can be achieved with your participation.

Two questions:

1. What are you currently hoping for, or what have you hoped for recently?

2. What skills or talents or knowledge do you already have that could be employed toward reaching whatever it is that you have been hoping for?

Share your answers in the comments!