Christmas and Hanukkah are behind us. How are you holding up?
New Year's Eve is just a few days away, and so is the conclusion of the three month string of relentless holiday celebrations. Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year's are all fun, but they can wear people down.
After the fog of sugar, Tryptophan, Michael Buble Christmas songs, and overstimulating family time dissipates, people frantically grasp for control again by attempting to make New Year's Resolutions. They have a mixed experience of the relief that January brings from the holiday onslaught as well as the tiring realization that January is still the dreary dead of winter and you have to go back to work.
As a result, people err on the extreme and set lofty resolutions that are simultaneously vague and unrealistic.
Only 8% of people who set resolutions actually stick to them, but that does not mean that the resolutions are specific or appropriate.
Here is your guide to making sure that your resolutions are right for you.
I am going to help you nail down your perfect resolutions and plan how to actually maintain them for the whole year.
This week's objective is to determine what you care enough about to work on.
Real talk: have you ever set a resolution and then gave up on it within days?
Do you set resolutions just because you felt pressured to do so and because someone else did?
Do you even want to set a resolution for yourself?
These questions are key because they highlight the most important question about setting resolutions: WHY?
What is the point of them, for you?
Why do you need a resolution?
What are you having trouble doing without the accountability of a resolution?
Resolution is defined as "a firm decision to do or not do something." Okay, that makes sense. We all knew that it is that kind of decision, regardless of its "firmness".
A second definition, though, is more interesting: "the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter."
Ooooooooooo have you thought of setting a resolution as personal problem solving?
Mmmmm I love that perspective.
Setting a resolution is resolving to solve some kind of "problem" for yourself?
So by what have you been preoccupied in your life that you would really like an excuse to finally solve?
Is it a conversation you have been avoiding with your spouse or partner?
Is it a change you have been hoping to make in your job or business?
How about a habit that you have really been wanting to start practicing (often as exercise, nutrition, or housekeeping)?
That is all I want you to answer this week. What do you care enough about changing or working on this new year?
Keep it specific as though it were something that could be achieved within an hour. Think small so that you do not think about having to continue it for 364 more days.